Last 60 days of 2018..are you diving in?

Is it November yet? Get ready, New Year’s resolutions are coming your way!

I now some people hate them and I can imagine why. Instead of stressing about that can we just ease into 2019 by doing something good for ourselves and maybe setting ourselves on a path we’d like to take in months to follow?

Just an idea, last 60 days of 2018, what you’d like to do? I have some small goals that I’d like to achieve by the end of this year, the bigger ones will need time but why not lay down the foundation now?

Here is my list. Short because, you know it’s only 2 months left…

Headstand. You probably have no idea how big it is for me. I’ve been practicing yoga for years but I still haven’t done a headstand or as pros call it: Sirsasana. It’s not about doing what everyone does or calling myself a ‘true yogi’ because I think there’s no such thing. Yoga is not a competition and I’m not competing even with myself (as I do in running), it’s about conquering my own fear. I’m terrified of going on my head since I remember. Approaching this fear and getting rid of it seems almost impossible.

Nutrition course. Right now I’m almost done with the basic nutrition course I started in the summer and once finished (keep your fingers crossed for the final exam!) I’d like to embark on a 1 year journey with more in-depth course. Although I’m more and more interested  in Indian and Chinese medicine I think a course based on western approach will complete or give me a good start. Nutrition and wellness has been a big passion of mine for a long time and I feel it’s time to do something about it.

Be kind to myself but push myself when needed. Do you find this part difficult? I do. Sometimes I just have to let go or slow down but every time I need to do it I tell myself it’s laziness. The fact is I’m rarely lazy and if I am maybe I need to be. And I have to find the truth and objectivity inside myself to recognize these moments.

Marathon. I gasp writing this, if you follow me you know how badly my half marathon went and mentally I haven’t recovered from that completely. The biggest obstacle I’ll have to face is mental. I’ll have to stay focus and believe, be sure that I’m able to to what I trained for. It’s funny, I’ve done more that 15 marathons and I’m still struggling at times like a newbie. This will be a race like this. The beautiful and the ugly part of distance running: you may train but the final result can always be a surprise. If the final result is not what we imagined we usually call it disappointment.

Ok, that’s my list, I think it’s quite challenging but doable.

Any thoughts?

How to get over a failure aka get back on track

I trained, I was ready, I couldn’t wait. And when the race day came all went wrong. I wasn’t enjoying myself, I was tense and my pace followed. The race I ran twice the third time wasn’t that magical and fun as I remember. I finished with the worst result in years (1h51min) and I was quite down. Still am. What next? Am I as good (relatively) as I imagined or maybe I’m a fraud? After the last sentence you can imagine how I feel. But life goes on and I want to run. Have you ever been in a similar situation? How to get out of this post failure funk? Here’s my personal list, apply this to every failure

Analyze&learn. This is the worst part for me but maybe not for you. What went wrong and how to prevent it next time? Mental part, execution or some detail that ruined the whole thing? When running some things are predictable, routine, like e.g. eating before and during the race, clothes you’re wearing, your pace strategy. Other things like weather or sudden gastric issues are out of control. What you do when unexpected happens? When I got late into pre-race area I panicked and tried to surpass everyone. I was so tense for the first half and then… I just stopped caring? I still have to figure that out.

Give yourself a break In Italy people use to say ‘not all doughnuts come with a hole’, that means not everything you do will be a success. It’s a part of life and although it seems so deep and philosophical please remember that you shouldn’t identify with your failure. It was a moment in time and it passed and you should pass over it. You’re not your mishap, it just happened to you.

Put things into perspective. Will you remember this particular event in a week, month or a year? Maybe but will it matter and will that weigh on your overall happiness? It will if you choose to dominate your life and change your attitude. Make a list of things that go well in your life and list of things that are more important in your life than this event that went wrong.

Focus on next goal Every time something bad happened to me I look amazed at nature. Somehow I expect that the world should notice I feel bad and stop for a while. It’s stupid, naive, but sometimes with all the violence and conflicts that happen around the world I wonder how come the globe turns with no regards to what is happening.

Still, the sun rises and so should you. If failure left you with no love and passion for what you were doing you need to move to the next thing that will make your heart beat faster. But if you still love what you failed at then ‘dust yourself off and try again’ as the one and only Aaliyah used to sing.

In my case running is always raising my heartbeat so I’ll stick to it. I’m used to trying over and over again.

Do you dwell on your failures? How do you get out of the post failure funk?