I’ve been shying away from social media recently.
Because I got bored and annoyed.
We all know that Instagram photos are not all real, most of them are filtered and for many people it’s a daily job so they work hard on light, angle and perfect shot.
I know and still I got bored of people who yesterday were normal and today they’re trying to sell me proteins.
So I stop following or paying attention to merchandise and I ask myself
Who do I look for on social media?
A lot of people I follow on social media are athletes, entrepreneurs or creatives so mostly people that inspire me, that are in the position I’d like to be one day. I look into their insights, I look for their advice and I’m jealous in a healthy way. What it means? I envy but at the same time I think how to get one day in that same spot they are in.
Then I follow people who are not super humans but make me smile and never fake a smile themselves.
Sometime though I have a weak moment and all I want is peace and quiet and I don’t mind being vulnerable.
That’s why people I follow must be authentic. If they show me 24 hours of their day or 7 days of their week I can’t believe it’s all smiles and roses. I’m not looking for drama so I don’t need to see your tears but don’t sell me motivational quotes all the time. Authenticity, weakness and getting up after you fell. And celebrating your victories.
You might say I look for a real life online while we all know real life is elsewhere. Social media are a huge part of my life so yes, I want realness on social media as well. I look for humor, art, information and opinion. There are no more boundaries between real and online life and we’d better get used to it and make online world better.
I don’t mind people having their accounts set like a pieces of art but that’s quite evident and you know what to expect. I don’t mind people putting some filters on their photos or telling their stories in a certain way.
Just tell your story, choose your filter, choose your soundtrack but be true.
I trained, I was ready, I couldn’t wait. And when the race day came all went wrong. I wasn’t enjoying myself, I was tense and my pace followed. The race I ran twice the third time wasn’t that magical and fun as I remember. I finished with the worst result in years (1h51min) and I was quite down. Still am. What next? Am I as good (relatively) as I imagined or maybe I’m a fraud? After the last sentence you can imagine how I feel. But life goes on and I want to run. Have you ever been in a similar situation? How to get out of this post failure funk? Here’s my personal list, apply this to every failure
Analyze&learn. This is the worst part for me but maybe not for you. What went wrong and how to prevent it next time? Mental part, execution or some detail that ruined the whole thing? When running some things are predictable, routine, like e.g. eating before and during the race, clothes you’re wearing, your pace strategy. Other things like weather or sudden gastric issues are out of control. What you do when unexpected happens? When I got late into pre-race area I panicked and tried to surpass everyone. I was so tense for the first half and then… I just stopped caring? I still have to figure that out.
Give yourself a break In Italy people use to say ‘not all doughnuts come with a hole’, that means not everything you do will be a success. It’s a part of life and although it seems so deep and philosophical please remember that you shouldn’t identify with your failure. It was a moment in time and it passed and you should pass over it. You’re not your mishap, it just happened to you.
Put things into perspective. Will you remember this particular event in a week, month or a year? Maybe but will it matter and will that weigh on your overall happiness? It will if you choose to dominate your life and change your attitude. Make a list of things that go well in your life and list of things that are more important in your life than this event that went wrong.
Focus on next goal Every time something bad happened to me I look amazed at nature. Somehow I expect that the world should notice I feel bad and stop for a while. It’s stupid, naive, but sometimes with all the violence and conflicts that happen around the world I wonder how come the globe turns with no regards to what is happening.
Still, the sun rises and so should you. If failure left you with no love and passion for what you were doing you need to move to the next thing that will make your heart beat faster. But if you still love what you failed at then ‘dust yourself off and try again’ as the one and only Aaliyah used to sing.
In my case running is always raising my heartbeat so I’ll stick to it. I’m used to trying over and over again.
Do you dwell on your failures? How do you get out of the post failure funk?
How many times you’ve read an article on what people who are not runners hate about people who run? Runners brag about running all the time, spend too much money and time on training and so on.
You know what? It’s not so easy to be a runner as well. We roll eyes every time we’re asked how long is the marathon and if we run every day and if we won the last race we’ve participated in. Because we’re tired being asked the same sometimes, let’s face it, really ignorant questions. Oh, I shouldn’t probably say that but common sense is for free. I don’t ask a mother if she wants to spend every second of her day with her children, or a fitness coach if he/she never eats chocolate.. Let me get through a short list of questions we get:
- You run you should have a professional runner’s body. That’s also a reason some people are afraid to start running, they’re just intimidated. And even if you run for number of months or years you don’t have to look like an athlete the way you imagine it. We’re tall, we’re small, lean, robust or overweight. We gain weight, we loose weight, we get injured and we’re out of form, then we get snatched or we don’t. Running is a privilege not an obligation. Some of us treat it less serious others get religious about training. We’re very diversified among us.
- If you run you should be fast. But we’re not professionals. Our capabilities changes as we get older, as we get stressed or have a blissful period of happiness and less stress.
- You’re runner, you have to run all the time. Actually rest is a part of training. To be honest even if I ran in the morning I will get jealous if I see someone running later that day but I think I’d hate running every day. Time off is a good idea both for your body and your brain.
- How come you take elevator, you’re runner. Because I’m tired. I do take the stairs quite often but yes, we runners do get lazy and we don’t think about our fitness all the time.
- You’re a runner, you ran a New York City Marathon, right? It’s one of the most popular marathons in the world and for sure someone who has a vague idea about racing has definitely heard about NYCM. Most of the runners would like to run it, some people who would like to run only one marathon in their lives will choose that one. This doesn’t mean though all runners have done it, there are millions of other, even more prestigious, races
- Marathon? You know, the first guy who did it actually died. Not true, Philippides was a professional and he ran more that a distance of a marathon, according to our standards he ran an ultramarathon and he survived as he was trained to run long distances. His job was to deliver messages on foot and horses ha to be spared for other tasks.
- You think less of all non-runners. No, we don’t. More time passes less we want to talk about running as we want to have other friends, non-runners and running is such a natural of our life we don’t feel the need to talk about it all the time.
The conclusion would be that we don’t expect of people who don’t run to know all about running but we don’t like to be judged by the cover, that is our bodies, shoes and the term ‘runner’.
Knowing how long is a marathon is kind of basic knowledge, for the rest: be open and tolerant. Maybe one day you could go out for a run and once you do..you’re one of us!
Is it November yet? Get ready, New Year’s resolutions are coming your way!
I now some people hate them and I can imagine why. Instead of stressing about that can we just ease into 2019 by doing something good for ourselves and maybe setting ourselves on a path we’d like to take in months to follow?
Just an idea, last 60 days of 2018, what you’d like to do? I have some small goals that I’d like to achieve by the end of this year, the bigger ones will need time but why not lay down the foundation now?
Here is my list. Short because, you know it’s only 2 months left…
Headstand. You probably have no idea how big it is for me. I’ve been practicing yoga for years but I still haven’t done a headstand or as pros call it: Sirsasana. It’s not about doing what everyone does or calling myself a ‘true yogi’ because I think there’s no such thing. Yoga is not a competition and I’m not competing even with myself (as I do in running), it’s about conquering my own fear. I’m terrified of going on my head since I remember. Approaching this fear and getting rid of it seems almost impossible.
Nutrition course. Right now I’m almost done with the basic nutrition course I started in the summer and once finished (keep your fingers crossed for the final exam!) I’d like to embark on a 1 year journey with more in-depth course. Although I’m more and more interested in Indian and Chinese medicine I think a course based on western approach will complete or give me a good start. Nutrition and wellness has been a big passion of mine for a long time and I feel it’s time to do something about it.
Be kind to myself but push myself when needed. Do you find this part difficult? I do. Sometimes I just have to let go or slow down but every time I need to do it I tell myself it’s laziness. The fact is I’m rarely lazy and if I am maybe I need to be. And I have to find the truth and objectivity inside myself to recognize these moments.
Marathon. I gasp writing this, if you follow me you know how badly my half marathon went and mentally I haven’t recovered from that completely. The biggest obstacle I’ll have to face is mental. I’ll have to stay focus and believe, be sure that I’m able to to what I trained for. It’s funny, I’ve done more that 15 marathons and I’m still struggling at times like a newbie. This will be a race like this. The beautiful and the ugly part of distance running: you may train but the final result can always be a surprise. If the final result is not what we imagined we usually call it disappointment.
Ok, that’s my list, I think it’s quite challenging but doable.
5 random things that made my day recently. Here we go:
Yin yoga. I tried this last Sunday thinking it was going to be a slow restorative practice. Wrong! It was slow but very intense. In yin yoga you hold asanas for 5 to 10 minutes and the purpose is to release your connective tissue as it holds tightness. In a way you ‘lubricate’ it. Our body golds to trauma and memorizes the pain that’s why yin yoga can release also an emotional tightness. Challenging and beautiful!
Tweet by Rich Roll (@richroll) on his 52 birthday. If you don’t know about this guy he’s a ultra-marathon runner, triathlete, wellness ambassador, author and host of amazing podcast. And vegan. His story is incredible and the best part is that he didn’t figure his life out when he was 20 or 30 but much later. His ,message in his birthday was: age is just a number, the important thing is to find your meaning in your own time.
Golden milk. You know I love wine but recently my drink of choice is golden milk! No, that sounds sad and false. Still, I’ve been drinking it a lot lately. Golden milk is a mix of spices but the main one is tumeric (it makes your curry yellow) and on a cold evening it’s a perfect soothing hot beverage. Try it!
Guilty pleasure: “The discovery of witches”. I never read Twilight or saw a movie but this book seems to be in the same genre: witches, vampires, demons. I guess I’ve been reading to many serious books and manuals lately and I have to give my head a break. Still, it’s written quite well and it’s been made into a series. It’s the most frivolous book I read in a while and I’m not ashamed to say it.
Running in the dark. I did it on Tuesday. 6.30 am and it was a strange experience as I don’t do it so often any more. When I used to do it I was running early in the morning in the city while now I ran in the suburbs. Pitch black. It was really amazing, strange, scary and thrilling experience. I’ve seen a Big Dipper on the sky and a lots of hares passed my way. I was a bit scared as I didn’t know where to put my feet but it was exhilarating at times. Not won’t fancy waking up at 6am again but still..
Any guilty pleasures, anyone? Comfort food? Something you’ve tried recently? Share!
The short answer is: you don’t
But of course the longer answer is: it depends. Experienced runners know what to do but it doesn’t mean they apply those rules. Why? Because we’re mad, we’re addicted and we always think that running will heal everything. Just another one, only 10 km and I’m done.
Runners: we’re different..
Injuries (I’m not talking about accidents) usually don’t come from nowhere. They creep on you, they come as a nagging pain, small ‘thingy’ that grow bigger until it becomes unbearable. Like taxes. But, unlike taxes, you can avoid them or mitigate the damage. Sometimes a day or two of rest will do the trick: you have a tense muscle and if you run on it you might pull it. Or maybe you should change your running shoes but you forgot to keep track on how many miles/kms you run in them. Pain that stays with you is always an invitation to stop and find a reason why. Or at least stop.
Don’t be greedy, good things come slowly
Most of us believe we’re made of iron (or rubber, you choose) and we can do whatever and our bodies will follow. News: you’re not a Superman, if you start running too much too soon you will get injured. It sounds so obvious but we still forget that your body needs to adapt to a load of workout. A small amount of it will make you progress and become faster and stronger but if your body will be subjected to too much too soon it won’t be able to process it.
Small addition of kms (miles)= you’re sore, big load too soon= you’ll be sorry.
Invest: foam roller, massage and maybe a coach.
Aah, investments..they said running was the cheapest sport of them all. But then you decided to run more, race, eat gels wear fancy shorts and have a smart watch that tell you that you’re slow.
To be honest you can skip most of the gadgets (keep the shoes and sports bra) but invest in foam roller. This torture device will give you a good muscle release, use it on your legs, glutes or even on your back. It hurts sometimes (almost always) but it works like a good deep tissue massage. If roller is not enough go to osteopath that may spot flaws in your posture and maybe give you some corrective exercises. Another good investment is a good coach. If you keep on getting injuries maybe someone should take a look at your running routine and goals?
Running is not enough
That’s the saddest and most interesting part. The saddest because running is fun and everything else is sooo boring.
Interesting because in reality there are a lots of other sports and activities that can make you move, be entertaining and even…wait for it..make you a better runner. Cycling, hiking, swimming will condition your muscles differently and will help you building endurance. Personally I consider very beneficial taking up activity that you won’t take so seriously as your other sport. You’re a great runner? Start dancing and laughing at your lack of coordination!
Ok, that’s it. I’m sure there’s a way to avoid injuries but they happen anyway to even the best of us. The art of dealing with it is another blog post…
Have you survived the September detox/back to work/school/grind? I did nothing of that but it doesn’t mean September hasn’t been hard on me 😉
I’ve already talked on this blog what I think about all the detoxes (apart from one I will talk about later). Why do we think it’s ok to punish ourselves while we actually need the opposite: care, attention and encouragement? Here’s what I have in mind
Let’s talk to ourselves like we actually like ourselves
Can you imagine a conversation with your friend that goes like this:
You friend: I’m going to try this new job/run a marathon/learn Spanish
You: Are you sure? Have you ever succeed in anything? It will end up like every time you try something.
If you’re a good friend this conversation wouldn’t go that way, first of all because you believe your friends can achieve whatever they want and even if you don’t positive encouragement is way more effective that bringing people down. I’m almost sure that the person you talk negatively like to nobody else is you. Every day. I’m always amazed how powerful words are and what an amazing power positive thinking is. This is coming from a very skeptic and sarcastic person (that is me). Each time I read a positive quote I feel a rush of courage and good energy. I guess positive thoughts have the same effect on your mind as the good, nutritious food for your body. Don’t think it’s easy for me, for lot of people it’s not.
Practice, write it down, put on a positive song.
Let’s leave our cell phone for at least 30 minutes a day
This one is extremely difficult for me as I take my phone everywhere. And by that I mean literally everywhere #TMI.
Two weeks ago I had no Internet connection for 2 or 3 hours and I went crazy. I realized how much I depend on Internet, social media, emails etc. Funny enough I managed to do so many things in that 3 hours and when I had Internet back I discovered that nothing actually happened when it I was gone. Of course I didn’t practice digital detox since then because…I’d rather go hungry. Just kidding, everything is worse than being hungry but I’m convinced that putting my phone down for 30 minutes is a challenge. Willing to take the challenge with me? Hey, at least you can do in 30 minutes everything you’ve been postponing whole week and then stay on Instagram for the rest of the day..
Let’s get physical
Yes, you can interpret this one however you want. At this point of my life running is my game but I think you should always aim for your activity of choice. Hike, jump, dance, walk, do yoga or pilates. Why? I do this because moving my body changes my mood from any state to awesome (endorphins, heyyy) and I have time to think things over or think about something else than everyday troubles. My best ideas come when I’m running, I sort my thought out when I’m getting tired. Sometimes I get so exhausted during my runs that I have no choice but to honest with myself. You know that state when your body is so out of energy that all is let is pure thought? If you don’t, try. You and your body need to reconnect and this is the best way to do it. Weirdest and most amazing thing? You’ll be tired and soon after full of energy.
Let’s give ourselves a treat aka #treatyourselfwell
The easy choice would be buying something lavish, booking an expensive trip or going out for a dinner in Michelin restaurant. I’ve had a fare share of expensive gifts ‘from myself to myself’ in my life and the joy lasted for a very short time. Can I get more creative? I go back on the theme of being good and gentle with ourselves, dedicating attention and time that we deprive ourselves of because ‘it’s only me’. I’m very grateful to my mum and my grandpa for teaching me that eating should be, whenever you can, on a set table. Even if you eat on your own, especially if you eat on your own. Preparing your food with care, even if you eat alone. So if I eat on my own I set a table and prepare the food I like. No shortcuts. Attention is priceless and I’m worth attention. Let’s treat ourselves to something simple and something that put our needs first.
And now…a treat for you! Recently I’ve discovered 2 ways how to make easily plant milk, or as someone call it : mylk. It’s simple and it’s fast and it’s economical. I mean: win win and win!
Nut milk: you need your nut butter of choice, I’d choose something without as clean as possible, that is peanut butter with only peanuts and no additional and useless sunflower oil, etc. But it’s your call I don’t judge. Ok, so you take a 1l of warm or hot water, add a generous teaspoon of your peanut butter or almond butter and blend it for 30 sec/1 min. Done. Of course you can add some sweetener if you like: honey, stevia, maple syrup, etc but you don’t have to. Done.
Hemp seed milk: the same procedure. Add 2 tablespoons of hemp seeds to warm or hot water and blend for few minutes. Add sweetener. Or not. Done.
I’m convinced that my waste production is similar to a small European country. And I feel weird (read: confused and guilty) about it.
I started cutting on plastic starting from my shower.
I use a fare amount of shampoo, conditioner and shower gel. Fortunately some brands, usually the smaller ones, have started producing solid shampoos and conditioners. If you can’t find them on line go straight to Lush. Great quality and they last for ages! I also started using soap instead of shower gel and I find it less drying for my skin. Of course quality matters, the more natural soap the better but even the more pricey ones will last longer than an average washing gel.
Coffee. To be honest I haven’t done an effort here because I’ve been using moka since forever but if you’re using one of those fancy machines with coffee pods I have news for you: every single one takes around 200 years to disintegrate. And coffee is simply better from moka not mentioning that ‘encapsulated’ coffee cost way more than the regular one.
Groceries: bring your own bag. I personally hate the plastic or ‘organic’ bags because they get holes just by looking at them. I try to have with me at least one of the fabric bags. You get them at almost every event if you want them or not. Get them and use them for shopping!
Buy in bulk. Of course not many supermarkets or shops offer that option but it’s worth looking for a place where you can stock on nuts, legumes, flour, detergents and so on. It cost less and it’s environmentally friendly. Weather you buy in stock or ‘in plastic’ I encourage you to keep things in your kitchen in mason jars. Plastic is damaging to the planet and it means you as well, so keep your rice, pasta, flour in something else than plastic!
Bring your own cup and..cutlery. This one sounds really cheap but you’ll get me if you travel a lot. When I’m at the airport I don’t always take coffee because I’m quite picky and I don’t want to get another dose of caffeine so I have my Starbucks tumbler with me. Sometimes I’ll take my favorite herbal tea with me (yes, I’m that boring) but even if I’m ordering a hot drink I don’t use another reusable cup. Coming back to plastic: I get my own fork and spoon. I wouldn’t risk it with bring a knife and I wouldn’t need to use it. Nowadays you can buy a ready to use cutlery kit online or you can make it yourself (aka: get it from your kitchen and put it in an old beauty bag or something similar)
What I want to do in the near future
Throw away my plastic toothbrush. I don’t mind using it but it’s battery is getting worse and worse every day. I won’t get another one that will need its plastic head replaced every 2 or 3 months. I’ll probably get a non mechanical toothbrush made from recyclable material. Any suggestions?
Don’t buy cotton face pads. I use them every day in my bathroom but I found out you can buy a set of reusable bamboo pads that can be washed in the washing machine. Great invention. You ask what it has to do with plastic? Well, they always come in plastic confection. Apart from using less plastic I’m into buying less things this year.
Let me know if you’re on board with ‘less plastic’ and ‘less waste’ movement’ and what would you suggest to reduce plastic?
September, the beginning of autumn. Every time I scroll through my Instagram feed I see that the world go on detox. Not just diet, a detox. That supposed to be cleansing after these 2 weeks period called vacation that was preceded by at least 1 month period of read-for-the-beach diet. And before that we had a spring awakening awakening cleanse because as you might have already guessed: we ate like pigs during Xmas.
People say that with climate change the seasons just disappeared. I believe it’s our culture that did that. Our year is made of periods of famine, brief feasts followed by detoxes and cleanses. All year round we should be vigilant. Calories are just waiting around every corner.
It’s rarely to hear, both men and women, to admit they ate something without any justification. “I had pizza but I’m going to the gym tomorrow” or “This must be like a thousands calories but I walked a lot today”. Food makes us guilty.
No matter how valuable you are as a person your value is primarily your looks. Looks is the first thing the world will judge you upon.. It’s a natural but it becomes toxic when it stays the main indicator of your value.
You’d probably say it’s not true and that we value intellect and wit. If that’s true why one of the most common messages in the wellness and fitness community is self acceptance? Love yourself no matter what! You’re worthy and beautiful and even your flaws are beautiful! And you’re smart! You must love yourself no matter what the social media is trying to make you believe! If all of this is true why we’re constantly teated like children binging on sweets?
Don’t get me wrong: I love good healthy food and I feel my best when my body is well nourished with food that makes me feel good. Having said that my looks should never be a fast jump to judgment of my persona. If I loose weight it doesn’t necessary means I’m in a good place in my life but that is what people assume. If I loose weight I might be sad, stressed or ill but the first reaction is compliment. My value is not my looks so don’t try to convince me that I should fit a certain size and then if I feel bad about myself convince me again that looks doesn’t matter and I’m worthy ‘no matter what’.
I have to admit: I love following new trends in food/wellness industry and I will try almost everything. Don’t judge.
Just to say I was the first to try maca when the only place where you could buy it was a local shop selling all foods from Latin America, I don’t even know where I had my first spirulina and chia seeds ‘stash’ but I know I don’t regret it and yes, I always hope the next super food will be the ultimate recipe to eternal youth, health and, the most important of all: performance.